My doctors have all recommended that I not try to conceive again. My body and pregnancy just don't agree.
1st pregnancy- Baby Andy miscarried at 12 weeks
2nd pregnancy- Baby Brody born at 28 weeks weighing 2 lbs. 4 0z.
It would be a great risk for me to try for a third baby. It was also very difficult to watch Brody fight to live. I would not want to make another child have to go through what he did.
|My first time to see Brody. He was 2 days old.|
In 2008, we went to Africa for the first time, and it was a trip that changed our lives. Had Brody been on that trip with us, I'm not sure Ryan would have ever got me to leave. On day 3 of that trip, I told God how much I loved being in this village and would gladly move there. So we began praying from that day for several weeks if God would have us to change ministries and go on the mission field. God did speak to our hearts and gave us a knowing that our place was to continue to serve in the church and share God's word with teenagers. He did move us to North Carolina, but He sent us here with a passion for all the nations.
|Hassan and Housayni with their beautiful mother|
Selecting an adoption agency is no easy task. There are many out there, and you will find yourself asking "Who's the best?" I'm not sure there is one better than the other, but the best fit for our family is Dillon International. We prayed a lot about what country to adopt from, and we just kept being led to India. I've never really been around many people of Indian heritage, but during those weeks of prayer I bumped into so many of them. Whether I was sitting in a waiting room or in an airport, someone from India would end up sitting beside me to which we had wonderful conversations. I even came upon a family who had adopted from India at a grocery store. God kept confirming India over and over to us.
India is not a huge country, but it is the second most populated country in the world. Many of its people live in near starvation on the streets in overcrowded cities. A recent study showed the Indian states, including Bihar, Uttar Pradesh and West Bengal, have 421 million poor people. This is more than the 410 million poor in the poorest African countries. It was hard for me to believe at first that eight Indian states account for more poor people than in the 26 poorest African countries combined. As I wrote in my last blog, UNICEF estimates the number of orphans at 210 million in the world in 2010. This includes the estimated 86 million orphans in India, 44 million orphans in Africa and 10 million orphans in Mexico. To us, there just seemed like a bigger need for adoption there than in other countries.
"But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.” Acts 1:8 I remember my youth minister George teaching this passage when I was sixteen years old, and it had a great effect upon me. He shared the importance of being God's witness to our neighbors, to the person who's locker is next to you, to the old lady on the other end of town, to the opposing college football team in the state and their fans, to the people up North who don't drink sweet tea, to the people across the country, and to all the nations until we reached the ends of the earth. I am called to go to all distances to share the gospel. My heart's desire for many years has been to be an Acts 1:8 family. As a family, we will be a witness in our community, state, country, and world. India is our "ends of the earth." We may not be able to bring the gospel to the whole Nation of India, but we can bring it to one child.
These are the answers to the "whys" we get. It may not make sense to some, but that's ok too. It's what is good and right for our family. My prayer for writing this is that it will plant a seed for a new thought to someone.